Do you become nervous or are just not sure what to say when meeting someone for the first time? Your first impression with someone plays a very large role in how that person will perceive you. There are a lot of way that you can make a good first impression. The following strategies will help in creating a great first impression.
There are several ways to make a great first impression on someone you just met. Here are five proven strategies to get you started.
1. Be curious.
This is a great way to keep a conversation going. There have been a number of studies that all show that curious people tend to have better relationships than others. According to the research, people who are curious can connect better with others, enjoy socializing more then others, and are better at coping with rejection. Others are, actually, easily attracted to people who show curiosity and feel socially closer to those people.
Todd Kashdan, a psychologist from George Mason University had the following to say about curiosity. “Being interested is more important in cultivating a relationship and maintaining a relationship than being interesting; that’s what gets the dialogue going. It’s the secret juice of relationships.”
2. Ask what their story is
When we first meet someone, we tend to always ask the same questions such as asking what their job is or asking where they are from. These questions aren’t very open-ended and will likely result in them telling you their job and just asking the same questions right back. But what happens if you were to ask them “What’s your story?”. While it may be a surprise to the other person, such an open ended question can result in hearing great and interesting stories. The question will draw the other person in and they can speak from their heart.
3. Actually want to learn
Some of the best conversations occur when you actually want to learn about the other person. Not only do you want to ask what they do, you should be asking them how and why they do. The person will appreciate you asking and will likely ask you in return. You can also find someone who is younger and less experienced from yourself who can bring value to your life in something you are not familiar with. Doing so can help create a positive first impression.
4. Follow through on a Promise
Offering to help another person is another good strategy to start a good and positive first impression. While it is a wonderful sentiment, a large percentage of people don’t actually follow through on their promise. When you actually follow through with a promise you’ve made with someone else, they tend to value the connection even more. They will see you as a new contact, referral or a resource. You will benefit from the new relationship as well as the other person will want to reciprocate for the help.
5. Listen first. Speak after.
This is one that many people are probably familiar with. We all know that one person that will interrupt anytime you’re speaking. They are, most likely, not making good first impressions. It’s always best to let someone else speak without interrupting them. By interrupting, even if it’s just to add to their story, we’re not actively listening. Don’t let your own thought distract you while waiting impatiently to respond. It is easy to tell by one’s body language as to whether or not they’re actually interested in what they have to say.
And as always, when meeting someone for the first time, you always want to shake their hand firmly while looking at their eyes. During any interaction, you want to stand up straight and avoid moving your eyes/head in any other directions then theirs.